If you are going to just fantasize about changing your life or read a couple of self-improvement articles to feel better about yourself for your grand intentions, just forget about it.
The internet is flooded with solid, actionable advice on how to change your life, and chances are, it is not a lack of information that is keeping you from making a change, but rather a lack of serious, genuine intent.
You have to want to better your life more than you want to cling to your convenient old habits and lifestyle. If you are actually serious about changing your life, consider these tips:
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Where you are in life right now may or may not be your fault, but it is definitely your responsibility to change it if you don’t like it.
Realize that this life is yours to change, yours to save from being laid to waste, no one is coming to help you, it is up to you, and you are RESPONSIBLE for it. A good way to not lose sight of it is to ‘’… treat yourself the way you would treat someone you are responsible for taking care of ...’’
What this means is, ask yourself if your kid was treating their life the way you are, would you be okay with it? What would you want them to do differently, what would you want them to keep doing? How would you feel if they kept reading self-help material to procrastinate actually working on themselves?
To use a seaman's saying, no wind is favorable if you don’t know where you are going. You need to have a well-articulated goal and an equally well-articulated course of action to get there if you want to see positive change in your life. Simply put, you need to have a clear picture of exactly what you are trying to achieve in order to achieve it.
Journaling is one of the best ways to get clarity about your goal and the path thereto. So, take a pen and paper and make a list of the things you would like to change about your life. Now write down how you plan on bringing about these changes.
Writing can also serve as a venting mechanism and help you cope with the stress and frustration when you are struggling to improve your life. You can journal your frustrations and aspirations in the raw form, you don’t have to be eloquent. A journal entry can be as basic as ‘’I can’t think straight’’, ‘’ I hate my job’’, or ‘’wish I were self-employed’’.
Writing down your thoughts helps you to find out the errors in your reasoning by giving you a more examinable version of your abstractions. On the page, you can study your thoughts like pieces on a chessboard and make smarter decisions.
When you are journaling your objectives and how you plan on achieving them, you can meticulously track your progress and study what you are doing right and where you are going wrong.
You can learn very efficiently from your mistakes by documenting where you keep falling short. Don't worry about not being able to stick to the plan, it is okay to fail a couple of times as long as you are not aimlessly wandering about.
There is no behavioral force stronger or more reliable than the force of habit. And if you can incorporate healthy and productive habits in your morning routine, staying consistent in the pursuit of your goal can be as easy as brushing your teeth every day.
James Clear has written an excellent book called Atomic Habits in which he talks about the power of little (atomic) daily habits and how efficient they can be in changing a person’s life.
So, get your daily habits out of the way early on so you don’t have to worry about them for the rest of your day.
Moreover, when you start your day right, it tends to start a domino-chain effect which leads you to live the rest of your day right as well. Making a habit of it would be hard at first, but once your mind accepts it as your daily routine, you will start to feel less and less resistance to sticking to your morning routine.
You don't have to get up at 4, chug a bunch of raw eggs and go for a run like Rocky or have an elaborate morning routine like Patrick Bateman, you just need a process that you can repeat consistently.
It could include anything you like as long as you can sustain it FOREVER. That’s right, don’t see it as a morning routine for some time, but rather, a lifestyle. Remember the golden rule of morning routines, Consistency is key.
Since you are living inside your body, the most simplistic way to improve your life is by improving your health. Try to include healthy habits like working out and meditation in your morning routine. Also, try to have a healthy breakfast without any processed sugar or fried items.
Working out makes your body release endorphins in your bloodstream which are great for your mental health and put you in a positive mood. And when you are in a good mood, you feel more motivated to improve your life and are more likely to do so.
Take it slow though. Don’t over-train and don’t quit all unhealthy foods or any other addiction you have got cold turkey as you are probably not going to be able to make it last very long. And when it comes to changing your life, it's better to risk slow progress than discontinued progress.
You don’t even need to spend a bunch of money on a gym subscription or super healthy foods. Basic bodyweight exercises like push-ups, sit-ups, and squats that you can do at home are just fine to get that blood pumping and get you ready to take on the day.
Getting fit would also make you more attractive and help you with your romantic life which is as important an aspect of your life as any. But not as much as getting a job if you are unemployed. Read How to Get a Job Without Any Experience.
Trying out new things is one of the few fun parts of turning your life around. Get out of your perceived comfort zone and try out new healthy hobbies like reading, hiking, or cooking. After all, how can you know where your limits of competence and productivity are if you have never pushed yourself to them?
Identifying and fixing weak spots in your personality really goes a long way to improving your professional and personal life.
If you have an introverted personality, try going out more and if you are extroverted, start saying no to unproductive social activities. Similarly, if you tend to be a pushover, start practicing standing up for yourself and your boundaries, and if you tend to be the disagreeable type, practice being more generous and kind.
One way to conceptualize changing your life would be expanding your comfort zone. Imagine yourself no longer being uncomfortable doing things you are uncomfortable doing now. Now, choose something minorly uncomfortable for you to start with and stick to it.
Sometimes, you need to shed the weight of old and dear shackles to move forward in life. After all, you cannot change your life by carrying the same old baggage. Identify elements in your life, from habits to people, who are holding you back from making the changes you need to make in your life, and LET THEM GO.
Practice not identifying with your demons, for instance, don’t say I am lazy, say I am being or I have been lazy.
Remember your negative behaviors are not who you are, they are who you are being right now. They are no more a part of you than the clothes you don, you may be momentarily identified by them but you are by no means defined by them.
Attachments, addictions, ideals, whatever it may be, if it is standing in your way, it has to go. We often hold on to these because we prefer a known devil over an unknown one. We get comfortable with our flaws and sabotage our personal growth for fear of facing the challenges that would emerge with a new, better life.
So, if you really want to change your life and start a new life, you need to be ready to sacrifice your darling demons.
And if you are not able to, say you are too addicted to quit cold turkey, walk away progressively, or start with something even smaller like making good use of it if possible.
If you are addicted to your phone, for instance, try to monetize your social media following. Here is a comprehensive article on the subject: How to Make Money on Social Media: 5 Platforms to Cash in on Your Online Presence.
Though you and you alone are responsible for fixing your life, it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Sharing your goal with your friends and family can be a great help if you are struggling emotionally with change.
If you are lucky enough to have people in your life who you can let in on your personal goals and derive support from them, you should ask for help from them when you need it.
Changing your life is no little thing and it is very normal to feel overwhelmed at certain times along the way. At such times, your loved ones can be a tremendous support and help you continue on your journey to self-improvement.
Not only that but when they know you are on a mission, they may make unspoken tweaks in their own behavior around you to make it easier for you to stick to the struggle. For instance, if you let your family know you are starting dieting, they may avoid eating junk food around you of their own accord so as not to make it harder for you.
Take measures that are directly necessary to bring about the change you want in your life. If it is getting in shape, take a gym membership, if it is getting a better job, learn how to write a resume and take online courses that would help you land your dream job.
And if it is to be self-employed, the least you can do is to read articles on topics like Entrepreneurship, Passive Income, and How to Make Money Online.
There is rich information on it right there on the internet, it is ridiculous how easily accessible it is, you can literally make a fortune out of free educational articles on old Google, you can even earn without ever leaving home.
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Nothing can replace action. The most eloquent words, loftiest thoughts, and noblest intentions can’t take the place of positive action. So, just do it! A Greek philosopher once said, ‘’The truth is you know what you need to do but you are scared.’’ If the quote resonates with you at some level, just do it.
And if it doesn’t, just do it. You want it to happen, don’t you? No one can make it happen but you, don’t keep waiting on a miracle, do it!
It can happen and you can do it.
A daisy can grow in a crack in the tarmac. You can do it. You can do it today.